When enough is finally enough .....

God knows the bigger picture .... 

Once you step out and look back at your life you can begin to see how the grace of God helped you through!

I am very sure when God created people, He meant for everyone to get along and love each other with that beautiful tender love Jesus portrays.  But we all know this is not the reality we so long for at times.  God would never have told us to love one another if He did not enable us to do so.

I need people to understand that my writing in this blog is not for the ordinary family with a few arguments here and there.  This blog is meant to give those families with deep-rooted hurt and sadness some hope to say "no matter what, you can get through it".  I know families in my circle that are going through a tremendous amount of hurt because of judgment and cruel words.  Those are the families I pray for and there is hope and grace in our Jesus.. Just press on!!

GOD KNOWS BEST FOR ME

We all know that glass can be absolutely beautiful, but it can also cut extremely deep.  A very famous quote from an author (unknown) reads: "Relationships are like glass.  Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting them back together".

I know as we have been made in the image of God and God exhuberates love in abundance that this was His ideal plan for us.  God tells us in 1 John 4:7 "Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God".  But these words are not always that easy. When then can our hearts cry out "enough is truly enough"! It hurts. The glass is about to shatter. I do believe God would not want us to get hurt over and over so at one point I know God would be content if we make a decision and we say "today, at this very present moment, enough!

We all want our family (or friends) to care and we want to feel valued so we expect them to act in a certain way towards us, as that is the right thing to do. Sometimes someone is "knowingly" hurtful towards us.  It is therefore important for us to recognise this or we will feel disempowered and hurt.  We cannot change our family (or friends) but we can protect ourselves.  Sometimes when we come into contact with them we should already expect how they will "behave" and we should just protect ourselves, guard our hearts. To "crave" approval leads to tremendous hurt at times.  This is the time that we have to just let go, let go and let God!  We can't change our family and we can't change what they think but we have to protect ourselves and our emotions so best is not to fight back, no don't. Letting go of all the feelings to fight back or say what is on our minds, will just leave us with the freedom that we need. So let go and let God.  We must just remove the emotions when we think of the ones that hurt us or when we are around them and pray for absolute inner confidence.

We need to make the right choices for ourselves, for our own lives.  Not all family would be loyal and not all family would be forever. They can be forever in your heart as that will never change.  You can still love them but you don't have to have a close-knit relationship with them.  God understands yes, He understands your heart.

It is great for us to always be compassionate towards our family but sometimes we need to look at our own hearts and be compassionate with ourselves first we need to say " This is just not okay".  Don't justify that you "might" be the wrong one because of the way you are being mistreated.  When you are truly loved by your family (or friends) they would not use your past mistakes or failures to justify the way they treat you.  That should not be their function but God's.  God is the only one that can judge not any human has that right, as He says in Matthew 7 : 1-5 (ESV) : "Judge not, that you be not judged.  For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you.  Why do you see the speck that is in your brothers' eye but not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when there is the log in your own eye"?  No matter what you have done in your life you deserve to have healthy relationships, build relationships with those that truly care and those that do not judge and those who treat you well.

Let us pray ....

Father God we pray for fruits of the spirit - peace and self-control - to manifest in our lives.  We pray that you change the hearts of those family members or friends that hurt us. May we have healthy relationships with people who care and who dont speak evil words against us. Lord you are our counselor and you counsel us, You tell us what to do.  We trust in You.